Seventeen years disappearing inside coercive control, and the truth that set her free
The abuse no one could see.
The Truth She Showed Me began as a record kept so her children would one day have proof of what they lived. It became a map for every survivor still searching for the words.
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Who this is for
Is it really that bad?
For the survivor asking that question at 3 a.m., and closing the tab before anyone sees.
For the friend, the parent, the sister who can't name what's wrong, only that something is.
For the therapist, the advocate, the officer, the judge who needs to recognize what they're looking at.
The answer is here. And it is yes.
The book
What it looked like from the inside.
The car that sped up when she begged him to slow down. The money she earned yet never seemed to have. The arguments that ended, somehow, with her apologizing. A facade built to be admired, and hers alone to maintain.
Then, quietly, she started planning. Three years. A hidden list she called her insurance policy. And a way out that no one saw coming.
Coercive control doesn't bruise. It doesn't photograph. It doesn't trigger 911 calls or generate police reports.
From readers
Books you read, and books that read you.
There are books you read, and then there are books that read you.
I've never been able to put to words what has happened to me for the last 30 years… but it's here.
I learned more in these pages than during my professional training courses.
Abuse that finally has a name. But this book also shows a mother's deep love and what she would endure to keep her children safe.
Books for Survivors
She shouldn't have to afford the words.
For every 20 copies sold, one goes free to a domestic violence shelter or advocacy organization. Through October, it's one in every 10. Because the survivor who needs this book most is often the one with no money of her own. That isn't a coincidence. That's the abuse.
Speaking
Bring this conversation into the room.
Keynotes, panels, workshops, and podcasts on coercive control, gaslighting, and rebuilding after abuse, from someone who lived it and leads at a Fortune 500 in the same breath. Not clinical. Not a pamphlet. A survivor.
Letters from Christine
Is this abuse?
If you have asked yourself that question, even once, even quietly, you are in the right place. Join the list for new writing on what coercive control actually sounds like, events near you, and first word on what I'm building next. Occasional. No performance.